Honoring My Roots, Serving with Purpose

Written by Myrna Olaya, Clinical Program Manager

 

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My identity shows up in everything I do—from my name to my values, from the way I show up in the world to the way I show up for others. It’s in the language I speak, the meals I cook, the music that moves me, and most of all, in the deep pride I feel for the culture that raised me.

Recently, while walking through a local Mexican grocery store gathering ingredients to make elote for a weekend carne asada, I felt it—that feeling. A familiar warmth, a deep-rooted pride. I watched families laughing, heard rancheras playing softly overhead, smelled fresh tortillas on the comal, and was reminded of how rich and beautiful our culture is. It’s moments like that which remind me: my heritage isn’t something I dust off once a year to celebrate during Hispanic Heritage Month—it lives with me, always.

Hispanic Heritage Month, observed from September 15 to October 15, is a time to celebrate the cultures, histories, and contributions of people from more than twenty Spanish-speaking countries. From the independence of Costa Rica, El Salvador, Guatemala, Honduras, Nicaragua, Mexico, Chile, and Belize to the everyday stories of resilience and joy that we carry, this month is both a tribute and a call to action—to honor our past while continuing to build our future.

And for me, that future shows up every day in my work as a mental health clinician at NFNL.

I bring my full self into the work I do with women and girls—many of whom share pieces of my story. My culture grounds me, and it gives me the compassion, strength, and perspective to walk alongside them in their healing journeys. We often speak a shared language—not just Spanish, but a cultural language of understanding, of navigating generational trauma, of finding power in community. Being able to offer culturally competent care is not just a skill—it’s a responsibility and a privilege I carry with pride.

As a Latina in the mental health field, I am also deeply proud to be part of a growing network of Hispanic mental health professionals—trailblazers and advocates who are making space for our communities to be seen, heard, and cared for. Representation matters. It empowers the next generation to seek help without shame and to know that healing is possible—because they see someone who looks like them, who understands.

 
 

So this Hispanic Heritage Month, I don’t just celebrate where I come from—I celebrate how far we’ve come. I celebrate the joy, the strength, the flavor, the rhythm, and the soul of our people.

I invite you to celebrate with me: eat our food, dance to our music, learn our stories. Because we are here, thriving, dreaming, and building legacies—every single day.

¡Viva los Hispanos! ¡Viva la Cultura!

 

A Place of Healing and Hope: Lessons From My Three-Year-Old and the Youth Resource Center

Written by Katrina Tamez, Grants Manager

 
 

As a young mother and grant manager at New Friends New Life, my work and my personal life often feel deeply connected. Recently, my three-year-old daughter reminded me just how powerful that connection can be.

One day, she noticed that I was feeling overwhelmed, from juggling work, motherhood, and the many emotions that come with both. She looked at me with her big, compassionate eyes and said, "Mommy, take a deep breath." In that moment, I was reminded how even the smallest voices can hold such profound wisdom.

She learned that simple but powerful coping skill from the little mindfulness moments we practice together at home. It struck me that the same skills she is beginning to learn are exactly what the young people at our Youth Resource Center (YRC) are working to build every day.

The YRC isn’t just a place to access food, clothes, or academic help; it’s a place where girls learn to heal. Through trauma-informed therapy, they develop the same essential coping tools: how to breathe through difficult feelings, recognize their emotions, and respond to challenges in healthier ways. For many, these skills are life-changing, empowering them to reclaim a sense of control and begin to envision a future beyond the pain they’ve experienced.

 
 

Working at New Friends New Life has shown me the incredible power of wraparound support. Our staff and volunteers wrap each young person in a circle of care, empowering them to build resilience and rediscover their worth. We measure success in milestones big and small: a high school diploma earned, a poem written in therapy, a smile that wasn’t there before. Each one is proof that when a community comes together to uplift its most vulnerable members, transformation is possible, and every step forward is a victory worth celebrating.

 
 

I am proud to lend my voice and my pen to support this work. The YRC is more than a place; it is a testament to what love, resources, and dedicated advocacy can achieve. As a mother, I hold close the reminder that every child deserves a chance to thrive. As a grant manager, I am honored to help make that possible every single day. I encourage you to explore the different ways that you can offer your talents, experiences, and resources to advance this mission of restoring and empowering survivors. Together, we can continue to create a world where every young person has the opportunity to heal, grow, and thrive… one deep breath at a time.

10 Things Your Therapist Wishes You Knew: Inside a Therapist’s Mind During Mental Health Awareness Month

Written by Kate Gilliland, Mental Health Clinician

May is Mental Health Awareness Month, a time to reflect on the importance of mental health and reduce the stigma surrounding it. As a therapist, I have the privilege of witnessing countless courageous individuals walk through my door and begin their healing journey. Yet, there are often things that go unspoken – things I wish my clients knew about the therapy process and how I truly feel about the work we do together. In this blog, I will share a few insights from the therapist’s perspective. From the nerves of the first session to the importance of being honest and vulnerable, here are ten things your therapist wishes you knew – because your healing matters to us as much as it does to you.

1.       It’s okay (and normal) to be nervous, especially for the first session. It can be scary to meet anyone new for the first time! We understand that beginning therapy may be overwhelming, and we are here to help in any way we can.

2.       We are SO proud of you. From the moment you walk through the door for a session, you have already begun the hard work that is therapy. Keep going – we love to see you succeed!

3.       Say the thing that is on your mind. Even if you are afraid that it is weird or that you will “sound crazy”, just say it! It is our job to hold non-judgmental space for you, and we respect the courage it takes to be honest.

4.       Tell the joke… yes, we think you are funny! 😊

5.       Be brave – bring up the things that bother you (even if it has to do with your therapist or therapy appointments). We understand that, at times, we may need to readjust or tweak things about our relationship or sessions. We appreciate the honesty our clients bring into the room!

6.       Share the picture with us in session. It is true, we love to see what your cat, dog, significant other, mom, or best friend looks like! If you want to, go ahead and show us the cool projects you have been working on and the people who make you proud.

7.       It is healing to cry. You feel the waterworks coming, you try to hold them back, but it is no use. Crying is not pointless; it is not embarrassing; it is a step in your healing journey, and we are fortunate to share that moment with you.

8.       You can share the big, scary things – we will hold the space for you. You do not have to worry about protecting your therapist from the dark moments of your life. We can handle anything you have for us.

9.       We love seeing you, too! We smile when we see your name on our schedule and look forward to our appointments with you!

10.  We are human. We may have an off day; we may say the wrong thing. We are human too, and while we make mistakes, we will do our best to communicate with you and make it right!

 

 
 

Mental health and its treatment are so important. You may find these statistics surprising, but this is the reality, nonetheless:

1 in 5 U.S. adults experience mental illness each year.

1 in 6 U.S. youth have a mental health condition.

50% of all lifetimes mental illnesses begin by age 14, and 75% by age 24.

Suicide is the second leading cause of death among youth ages 10-14

In 2023, 20% of all high school students seriously considered suicide

In my field, I am surrounded by incredible people who are brave enough to share their stories and ask for help. Notice the words “brave” and “share” are connected here. Sharing our struggles comes with risk, especially if we feel we are the only ones experiencing difficulties. That is why it is so important to normalize conversations surrounding mental health. Yes, these topics may be daunting to approach; you may feel you do not have the right words to say. That is okay. The first step in normalizing these conversations is the willingness to listen.

 
 

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, do not be afraid to ask for help. Search for local therapists in your area and schedule an appointment or call to ask any questions you may have. In case of emergencies, be sure to contact the suicide hotline at 988 or dial 911.

 

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https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/suicide

https://www.cdc.gov/yrbs/index.html

More Than "Mom": Celebrating the Woman Behind the Title This Mother's Day

Written by Samantha Carmean, Development Administrative Manager

 
 

We often call her “Mom” like it’s her only name, like her identity began the moment we were born. But before she held us in her arms, she was already someone — a woman with dreams, fears, quirks, strengths, and a story all her own.

This Mother’s Day, I want to honor my mom and all moms not just for who they are as mothers, but for being the women they are, and the little girls they were – strong, complex, and full of life and color.

She Was Someone Before She Was “Mom”

As a young girl, my mom LOVED her Legos, especially her favorite set: Santa on his sled with his reindeer pulling him. She liked her Dynamite Doll that came with a motorcycle, and she has ALWAYS, (to this day), loved superheroes - especially Wonder Woman. She would sew clothes for her Barbie dolls or make them out of tin foil (something she had taught me how to do). She used to play basketball with her next door neighbor and make dirt racecourses in their front yard for their matchbox cars (clearly a bit of a tomboy). Every once in a while, she loved to climb the Mulberry Tree at the 15th hole of Mt. Pleasant Golf Course. There was a hole in the metal fence to get through, and the tree was right next to it. She remembers the mulberries being delicious!

I’ve seen glimpses of who she was before me in old photos and family stories – the one of her in her high school yearbook when she won the Departmental Art Award for Best Artist. These pieces matter, because they remind me that my mother isn’t just mine — she is her own person, too.

 
 

Her Womanhood Shaped Her Motherhood

So much of who she is as a woman has shaped how she loves. Her motivation for justice taught my siblings and I to always speak up when we saw unfair treatment. Her creativity and entrepreneurial spirit have taught us to seek adventure and find wisdom in life’s experiences. Her keenness for balance in life has taught us how to live in the tension of our dreams and limitations. And, her compassion has taught us to be genuinely curious about the people around us.

Believe me when I say, she brought her full self into parenting. Not just her care, but her creativity, her style, her humor. I still remember the one summer vacation my dad had a medical emergency and had to stay back. My mom drove me and my three siblings for six hours in our minivan to our annual Schlitterbahn Waterpark trip in New Braunfels. She was determined to be the “fun parent” and did everything she could to ensure all the kids still had a great time. All I remember is how awesome the wave pool was, but my mom says that trip was a nightmare!

She Still Has Dreams, Too

Even now, she’s still growing. Still becoming.

She rides a 300cc scooter with her scooter club and paints murals on walls. She solves the newspaper crossword puzzle every week and passionately keeps herself aware of social issues. She does bible study with her girls and is always contemplating life’s deep questions - until she remembers that some things just don’t have answers. She and my dad are finding new adventures all the time – going to concerts, hanging out with their friends, and traveling to Germany for Oktoberfest. It inspires me. It reminds me that we never stop becoming ourselves, no matter our age or our roles.

This Mother’s Day, I See HER Fully.

As I honor my own mom, I can’t help but also think of the mothers that come through our doors at New Friends New Life — women who have faced unimaginable hardship and still show up every day for their children and for themselves. They attend GED classes, therapy sessions, economic empowerment courses, and case management care. They, too, are more than “mom.” Before they were mothers, they were little girls with hopes and imagination, shaped by both joy and pain. And today, they are brave women who have chosen to begin again.

 
 

They carry not only the weight of their past but the strength of their healing. Their stories may include trauma, exploitation, or trafficking, but those are only parts of their journey — not the whole of who they are. They are artists, leaders, dreamers, and nurturers. They are building new lives while raising children with courage and hope. They are redefining motherhood on their own terms.

This Mother’s Day, at NFNL ,we see HER - fully. We honor HER resilience, HER softness, HER power. We celebrate her decision to seek the life she deserves, not only for herself but for the generations after her. Her love is fierce, and her transformation is profound.

To Every Woman Who Is a Mom — And Every Mom Who Is Still a Woman

Thank you for being all of who you are. Not just the nurturer, but the fighter. Not just the caregiver, but the dreamer. This Mother’s Day, we honor your full story — your becoming, your bravery, and your boundless love.

To my mom, You are my Wonder Woman. I love you.

-        Samantha

The Good in The World

Written by Vanessa Barker, Community Engagement Director

 

2025 Volunteer Appreciation Award Ceremony

In a fast-paced world where it’s easy to get distracted by everything going on, I’m often reminded of something simple but powerful: there’s still so much good out there. Some of the best examples of this good are the New Friends New Life volunteers.

These remarkable individuals are the lifeblood of a mission dedicated to healing, empowerment, and the rekindling of hope. With hearts wide open and hands ready to serve, they humbly step forward to create ripples of change that profoundly touch lives. Their unwavering commitment and compassion shine through, transforming ordinary moments into extraordinary acts of kindness that inspire and uplift those around them.

They offer childcare so moms can focus on healing and growth. They tutor students who are working hard toward brighter futures. They serve warm dinners that bring comfort and community. Behind the scenes, they’re sorting donations, gardening, and creating safe, welcoming spaces that reflect dignity and care.

Volunteers at Thanksgiving Dinner, Circle of Friends Board Members hosting Trunk or treat, SMU Students In the Garden, Volunteers Hosting Wednesday Night Dinner

And maybe most beautifully, they are celebrating our members—whether it’s a birthday, a new job, a graduation, a baby shower or simply a courageous step forward. Volunteers take the time to notice, to honor, and to cheer on the journey.

One volunteer shared…

“I have several favorite volunteer opportunities, so take your pick. They are Fashion Friday, childcare, tabling events, and tutoring our members in computer skills.”

He went on to say…

“My favorite volunteer memory has been when our members feel comfortable enough to share their successes and challenges with me.”

It’s that kind of connection—authentic, supportive, and empowering—that defines the spirit of service at New Friends New Life.

“What I love most about serving is being able to help empower our members to become strong, confident, and independent women,” he said. “What drives me as a volunteer is that as a man, I’m able to be part of the solution to sex trafficking, rather than being the problem.”

There’s something incredibly uplifting about seeing people choose to help—not because they have to, but because they want to. That kind of generosity reminds me that kindness is a powerful force, and it’s all around us if we just take a moment to look.

Volunteers at Liberty Street Garden, Volunteers hosting dinner for March Phase Up Ceremony, Volunteers passing out thanksgiving dinners to members, Volunteers HOSTING a yRC baby shower


At New Friends New Life, volunteers don’t just lend their time, they help create transformation. They bring warmth, joy, and a sense of connection that can turn a regular day into a memorable one. So, when I think about what truly gives me hope, it’s not always the big, grand moments, it’s the everyday acts of compassion. It’s people choosing to show up for each other. It’s the love and light that volunteers bring, one act of service at a time.

They remind me of the good in the world, and I see it in each of our volunteers.

 

P.S. — Toyota and Baker Botts Bring Legal Aid — and Laughter — to Exploited Victims

This excerpt was written by Krista Torralva for The Texas Lawbook.

 

Photo sourced from The Texas LAw book

For several weeks that a woman found refuge at Dallas’ New Friends New Life for formerly trafficked and sexually exploited victims, the staff hadn’t seen a small measure of her joy: laughter.  

Finally, at a pro bono legal intake clinic with attorneys from Toyota North America and Baker Botts, staffers caught a glimmer of hope as they heard the woman laugh after receiving legal aid.

It was a moment that resonated with the staff and the volunteer lawyers, said Scott Young, managing counsel of Toyota North America in Plano. 

“That is more than just turning a page,” Young said. “That’s like freeing her from her limitations.” 

Toyota and Baker Botts joined forces to put on the legal clinic in January during the charity’s Fashion Friday event featuring a donation closet. The New Friends New Life organization works to restore and empower teenage girls, women and their children by providing access to education, job training and mental health support. 

The lawyers assisted women with an array of legal issues, including housing, child custody and divorce, said Baker Botts partner Christa Brown-Sanford, who serves on the firm’s Executive Committee and Diversity and Inclusion Committee. She also serves on the New Friends New Life board of directors.

Photo sourced from The Texas LAw book

“It was a good mix of really impactful legal work and fun and just getting to create relationships, not just between Baker Botts and Toyota, but for the members that we were working with and also the New Friends New Life staff,” Brown-Sanford said.

Young said he was drawn to the mission of New Friends New Life when he was introduced to the organization at an event a few years ago. 

“They take people who seem lost to society, who are in a terrible situation, and they restore dignity and self-respect,” Young said, who leads Toyota’s pro bono committee and worked with fellow managing counsel Gunnar Heinisch, who led the New Friends New Life project for Toyota.

He reached out to Brown-Sanford about partnering with Baker Botts, whose lawyers approached the pro bono work the same way they would a paying client, Young said. 

Photo sourced from The Texas LAw book

Going into a general intake pro bono clinic can be daunting, not knowing what kinds of cases you’ll be faced with, Brown-Sanford said. But it’s not about having all the answers, she said. 

“Sometimes it is about us just showing up and being willing to listen and being empathetic and trying to at least be a resource for individuals that have no idea how to even approach their problem,” Brown-Sanford said. 

The women expressed gratitude and relief at being listened to, the lawyers added. 

“It was like they’ve never been heard. They’ve only been dictated and told what to do, and this was an opportunity for them to be heard,” Brown-Sanford said.

Photo sourced from The Texas LAw book

Article sourced from The Texas Lawbook.